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Ethan,

Thank you for Shift and the wonderful conversation!

I am already employing techniques to regulate my emotions with greater intention.

Question — I am generally pretty good at emotional regulation, except when I am triggered by a comment from one of my loving children like, "doing the dishes is a parent's job."

I know I should rehearse in advance the kind of funny, loving responses I would like to offer in such moments ... but of course I often forget in practice.

Any thoughts on techniques?

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Yes! This is where the WOOP technique I talk about in SHIFT (ch. 9) becomes so valuable WOOP helps make emotion regulation automatic. It involves specifying the W (wish), O (Outcome you hope to achieve), O (Obstacle that stands in the way of you achieving your wish, and P (formulating a specific if...then... plan). It's a technique that is quite effective at helping people follow through with their intentions!

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Yes! This is where the WOOP technique I talk about in SHIFT (ch. 9) becomes so valuable WOOP helps make emotion regulation automatic. It involves specifying the W (wish), O (Outcome you hope to achieve), O (Obstacle that stands in the way of you achieving your wish, and P (formulating a specific if...then... plan). It's a technique that is quite effective at helping people follow through with their intentions!

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